I'm recommending this book to everyone reading this post. I could hardly put it down. I'd like you to read it, both men and women, because through 4 different characters, across a century and an ocean, the author describes so well the deep levels of gratification tango can bring to one's life. I've chosen an exerpt for you, to underscore the leap in the confidence one can gain in one's own grace, mastery, savoir faire, and sometimes, panache.
"We moved to the middle of the floor as we would have at the end of a normal evening shift after the last waitress had gone, and we began to dance. As usual I felt the rough edges fall off me. I became emboldened. Everything we tried seemed to come off. I didn't notice the waitresses making space for us. I didn't notice that we had an audience until the song finished and the waitresses applauded and wolf-whistled. "Way to go, Lionel. Way to go."